Ray Rice Solution

the fact that there are supporters of Ray Rice, makes me sick. the fact that some of these supporters say "i don't support what Ray Rice did, but come on, abuse goes both ways, she hit him too", makes me sick. the fact that some people say "she's ruined his dream", makes me sick. 

yes there are 'men' who are in abusive relationships, and yes i quoted the word men. i am not saying there aren't women who abuse their husbands verbally and make them feel like shit and belittle them. i have seen those relationships and sometimes they are worse than physical abuse because you don't realize it's happening, because you can't see the scars. but give me a fucking break that there is a man in a relationship being beat the fuck up by his woman. no matter how you twist it, a man is stronger. unless of course this is your wife:

 i think that i am a pretty strong, forceful female (ask my husband for reference) and even on my best day, one punch from me will not leave him unconscious in an elevator for 3 minutes. now if i'm using a weapon of some sort, sure. i have playfully wrestled with my husband and brother and thought to myself, i am really giving it my all right now and my limbs are paralyzed, if this were an attacker, id be fucked. i read an article where a mom commented and said how she had five sons, and was sick of everyone making it like abuse didn't go both ways. i just had a flash of this mom telling her five sons that it's not okay to hit, not even if a woman hits you and these boys thinking that if they hit a woman its self defense or something. IT'S NOT. you are stronger, walk away. abuse shouldn't happen period, but if you are a man claiming that you knocked your woman out because she hit you first, you deserve to have everyone refer to you as a "man" (with air quotes when applicable) for the rest of your days.

the fact that anyone can say "it's his private life, none of my business" makes you a supporter of abuse. that's like having your co-worker walk in with a black eye, tell you she was hit, and you turn your back and say - non of my business sorry. Ray Rice's wife (regardless of your opinion of her for staying with him) is a human being. yesterday i watched about a dozen 9/11 videos and was so overwhelmed with the sense of humanity everyone had that day, and then was brought back to reality with all of these supporters for Ray Rice. where is your sense of compassion now? maybe she's scared to leave or maybe she's stupid for staying, but where is your sense of humanity for a woman who was KNOCKED OUT by a professional athlete? a public figure. someone whom maybe your five sons look up to. if he beat her in private and we never knew, that doesn't make it right, but how could we help if we didn't know? now we KNOW, we have SEEN the footage, and there are still those who say that we should turn a blind eye and continue to support this monster.

lastly, i leave you with this thought. everyone is blaming his wife for his suspension,as if she said knock me out, please, get suspended, i really want you home 24/7 to beat on me. they are saying that hes a great athlete, that it's about taking away his dream of playing football. if his dream really has been robbed, and all he wants is forgiveness and to play the sport that he has dreamed of playing his entire life, then i would propose this to him:

Ray Rice you can play football again, since that is your lifelong dream. You have proven yourself to be a good athlete and have earned a spot in the NFL. Maybe you have made a mistake and perhaps really are sorry and will seek help. And if this is truly all about you just playing football again, putting this terrible mistake behind you, and moving on, we ask that you take the $4 million that you would have been paid this year (i think thats the right amount, i did a quick Google search) and donate it to SafeHorizon.org or any other Domestic Violence charity of your choice. Play the game that you love, that you are devastated has been ripped away from you, for free this year. After all, this is all about your passion for the game right?